Confidence For Young Women

confidence |ˈkɒnfɪd(ə)ns |

noun
  1. the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.
  • the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.
  • a feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Think about it for a second – who portrays your perfect picture of ‘confidence’? What is it about them that makes them confident? It’s likely that said person has a couple of traits, if you may, that make her seem confident. This person radiates happiness and positivity. But allow me to let you in on a secret – these people that are seen as confident, they’re not always 100% confident, they have their bad days too. Some days worse than the others. What’s different about them though, is their mindset.

If you come to see it, most young women and girls – no matter what race, religion, or culture – lack confidence, some a lot more than others. It is not uncommon for them to feel the need to seek validation from other people or to want to be like someone else just to fit in. If you ask me, it’s rather sad actually, seeing all these amazing, wonderful girls busying their lives with self-doubt or what not. I say life is too short to worry about what others think, it’s time to start loving yourself.

As someone who has dealt with self-esteem and confidence issues in the past, I can tell you it isn’t easy. But once you learn to put yourself first, oh you can’t imagine how happy you’ll be. Learning to build your confidence and to love yourself can be a very challenging task, but it’s one of the most important things that one can do. Confidence is like a muscle; the more you use it, the more it grows. It is a skill you can learn. Master it and wear it out on your sleeve for the world to see. I’m going to fill you in on how I built my own self-confidence growing up. Here are the most important steps to help you head in the right direction on your journey of self-growth.

ONE – FOCUS ON THE PRESENT

A lot of us allow ourselves to be held back by our pasts, and this can be very damaging, to say the least. Honestly, what do you get by dwelling on the past? You’re just throwing away the present, literally wasting time by doing so. Accept it and make peace with it, and learn to live in the ‘now’.  I spent years of my life lingering over the past. It brought way more harm than it did well, but again, what’s happened has happened and I’ve accepted that. Allow yourself to grow, to learn from your past, don’t let it hold you back from living in the present.

TWO – TEACH YOURSELF TO SMILE

Believe it or not, I never ever used to smile. I was extremely self-conscious, I also just didn’t know how to smile. I didn’t know how to be happy. Sounds odd, but it’s true. Teach yourself to smile more often, all the time. Smile to strangers or to yourself in the mirror. Smiling has this effect, it just automatically lifts your mood and confidence and keeps you from having a bad day. This will automatically bring about happiness, and it’ll leave you feeling great (even if you’ve had a not-so-great day).

THREE – WRITE DOWN YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS

Acknowledge your achievements – no matter how big or small, list out your strengths, write them all down and be proud of yourself because YOU did that. All by yourself. That deserves a little celebration and self-acknowledgment. Think about where you were a week, a month, or even a whole year ago. With self-doubt, it’s easy to ignore your accomplishments and everything positive. Quit beating yourself up, you’re so much better than that. Look how far you’ve come, despite everything.

FOUR – STOP COMPARING

Please. Stop. Comparing. Yourself. To. Other. People. This is one of the worst things to do by far and can be very toxic. Everyone is unique and so so different, so special in their own way. You can never be another person, but you can strive to be the best version of yourself. Someone will always seem prettier, smarter, or whatever else, but they will never be you. Stop comparing yourself to anyone else, you’ll feel and come off as extremely beautiful, just like you are.

FIVE – DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL

You can’t always expect life to be all colorful and peachy; failure and setbacks are inevitable. It’s part of the process, part of success. Don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. Instead, accept it and learn from it, and allow yourself to grow. This is all part of creating a great life. Accept the fact that life brings us both highs and lows, and understand that failure is the stepping stone to success. You cannot let failure define you, let it teach you instead. Say goodbye to that self-doubt that’s resting in your head, toss it away. It’s unwelcome. Don’t let it kill your dreams.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” -Elbert Hubbard

SIX – BE GENTLE TOWARDS YOURSELF

Treat yourself with kindness, love, and patience, like you would a child. You wouldn’t be rude to a child if they’ve made a mistake or if they’re upset about something silly, and you would acknowledge their dreams no matter how big and weird they may seem. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone gets upset and has bad days, everyone has passions and dreams. Don’t be harsh on yourself, no matter the circumstances. Love yourself. Always put yourself and your health first.

Confidence and self-growth is a very vast topic, and I have so much to talk about regarding the matter. For now, however, this should be enough. Self-confidence is a superpower – once you start believing in yourself, the magic will happen. It’s all a mind game. Change your mindset and you will change your life for the better, I promise you this.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It’s not always that I take the time to think about what there is to be happy about, but doing so every once in a while helps me realize that despite having bad days and things to worry about, the positive way outweighs the negative. Even the simplest things can make one happy, like leaves or board games, or baking a cake. I very often forget the things to be happy about, and I let the stress and negativity get to me. I realize there’s no point in sulking or being mad, so I’ve put together a little list of 50 things to be happy about.

50 Things To Be Happy About

  1. Compliments
  2. Naps
  3. Lazy days
  4. Good cups of coffee
  5. Bookstores and libraries
  6. Handwritten letters
  7. Smiling without reason
  8. Long phone calls
  9. Comfortable silence
  10. Good memories
  11. Laughing till it hurts
  12. Family
  13. Best friends and loved ones
  14. Rainy days
  15. Sleeping in
  16. Having a good laugh with someone special
  17. Surprises
  18. Babies
  19. Traveling
  20. Fresh sheets
  21. Weekends
  22. Dark chocolate
  23. Pretty flowers
  24. Picnics
  25. Being productive
  26. Open windows
  27. Silent mornings or nights
  28. Museums
  29. Warm hugs
  30. Movie nights
  31. Being in love
  32. Being loved
  33. Words
  34. Learning new things
  35. Adventures
  36. Art
  37. Empty pages of a notebook
  38. “Good morning” or “good night”
  39. Cheese and crackers
  40. Sweatpants
  41. Jeans that fit perfectly
  42. Photographs
  43. Nature
  44. Animals
  45. Exploring new cities and places
  46. Dessert
  47. Honesty
  48. Food
  49. Smashing a workout
  50. New clothes

And there you have it. While there are many more, these are 50 things to be happy about. I do have to admit, this made me feel really nice, writing out this list. Hopefully, it makes you smile too.

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How To Live Your Best Life in 2018

Hi lovelies! So 2018 has finally rolled around, how are we all feeling about it? I’m honestly excited for this year, I can’t wait to see what new adventures it has in store. Every year, I see the “new year, new me” motto, but a few weeks into the new year almost everyone seems to have given up or to be having a bad/rough start to the year. This year though, that doesn’t have to be you or me. I’m going to tell you how to skip out on that rough start. It’s all about your mindsets, people, and the goals you set.

Here’s how to make 2018 your best year yet.

1. Reflect on 2017

The first thing you should be doing is reflecting on your year. Self-reflection or year-end reflection is very very important if you want to enter 2018 on the right foot. Think about where you were on January 1st of 2017, and really accept everything that has happened throughout the year – both the good and the bad. It’s only once you’ve come to terms with 2017 that you can enter the new year with a clear mind.

2. Invest in Your Body and Skin

This will be the year you get on track with your skin and body and put your needs first. With everyday stress, it’s so common that we let go of taking care of ourselves, but it’s time to fix that.

3. Prioritize Sleep

I cannot stress this enough, make sleep a priority. Yes, most of us have very busy schedules, but find any way to prioritize sleep to make sure you get no less than 7 hours at the minimum. Whether you have to incorporate naps into your schedule, sleep earlier, or wake up later, make it happen.

4. Focus on Hydration

If you’ve heard that water is the key to almost everything, believe it. Proper hydration can result in so many wondrous things happening for your body, skin, and health – you wouldn’t want to miss out on that.

5. Set Realistic Goals + Resolutions

With everyone setting new year’s resolutions, it’s not uncommon for most of us to get ahead of ourselves by setting unrealistic goals. It’s something I do very often myself. This year set proper goals for yourself, and keep them private. A study shows that people are more likely to achieve their goals if kept private, and I can back this one up.

6. Set A Priority List

While you have your list of goals, it’s even more important to have a priority list in order to stay grounded, and have an idea of what’s more important, while working towards said goals. Don’t lose sight of what you have right now in the process of chasing what’s still far away.

7. Find Healthy Alternatives to Cravings

Now, as a fitness junkie, I’m telling you guys – this will change your life. For some people it might not be easy in the beginning, but your body, skin, and mind will thank you later on. Also, your cravings might just indicate that you’re more dehydrated than you are hungry.

8. Workout

If you don’t already, you should start now. Working out holds a tonne of health benefits, and this too will lead you to the path to living your best life. Try it for at least 30 minutes a day, 6 days a week, for 30 days and see the difference.

9. Unplug Often

Unplug everyday for at least an hour. Spend some time alone or with those you love, and even though it’s the slightest difference, it’ll change your life for the better.

10. Practice Mindfulness + Meditate

Practice mindfulness wherever you are, whatever time of day it is. And what better way to de-stress after a long day than to meditate Meditating calms you internally, and if done before sleeping, you’ll have the best sleep ever. Trust me on that one.

11. Be Positive and Quit Complaining

No matter how positive you are or try to be, complaining ruins everything. Again, trust me on this. Both go hand in hand, positivity and no complaining. Yes, sometimes it can be really really hard to stay positive, but you have to try. Stop worrying about things, “What worries you masters you”.

12. Set A ‘De-Stressing’ Routine

Figure out your best way to de-stress, make a plan and stick to it.

13. Journal

Try journaling once every day. Writing out your thoughts, goals, feelings, or whatever else can help eliminate stress and can actually have positive benefits.

14. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and try new things. It’s the only way you’ll learn new things and make this a memory-filled year.

15. Practice Single Tasking

All of us are prone to multitasking and taking too much on our heads, and it just leads to us being stressed and overwhelmed. Why do that to ourselves? It’s a very unhealthy habit that has to be cut out at one point. Practice single-tasking, and write everything down in a to-do list, so it’s easier to handle one task at a time.

The overall idea is to focus on personal development, focus on growing and bettering yourself as a person. By implementing these habits into your everyday life, you’ll soon be on your way to having your best year yet.

Let me know what you think!

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Self Reflection | 2017

Hi friends! So the year has come to an end already (how?!) and what better way to end the year than with a good old dose of self-reflection? I believe it’s very very important to reflect on one’s self at least once a year, and since it’s the year-end, it’s better now than ever. Reflection for some people can be harder than it is for others, but everyone should try it in order to come to terms with 2017 and to start the new year off on the right foot. So today I’m going to share with you my self-reflection process? or whatever it is. I encourage you guys to do so as well. These are questions that I’ve gathered from multiple sources, Pinterest included. Also, this isn’t something I would normally do publically, so please respect that. Enjoy!

Reflecting on 2017

1. My biggest fitness accomplishment was:

maintaining my clean eating habits for the most part throughout the year, and increasing the amount I can lift.

2. My biggest blogging accomplishment was:

going self-hosted & revamping my blog!

3. These are the skills I acquired this year:

  • I improved my French
  • I learned advanced coding
  • improved my photography
  • learned the art of meditation
  • learned how to create animated objects using a software
  • I learned how to apply henna

4. This year, I learned the following about myself:

I learned that I’m very strong, both mentally and physically. Way more than I thought I was. My heightened ability during training never ceases to amaze me.

5. Here’s something I learned about other people:

everyone is annoying. jk

6. My biggest regret of the year was:

not properly focusing on academics

7. Someone I really enjoyed spending time with this year was:

My close friends and family.

8. I adopted this new positive habit:

Meditation

9. I dropped this negative habit:

Negative Self Talk / Self Criticism

10. My most common mental state this year was:

Happiness. Alhumdulillah.

11. Here’s how I grew emotionally this year:

I learned to stop taking everything that people said personally.

12. The best gift I received this year was:

the time and love of my loved ones. the best gifts ever.

13. A new food/dish I tried this year was:

Salmon. Yup, I’ve never had salmon before until about two weeks ago.

14. This year my physical health was:

Not in tip-top shape but relatively great.

15. Here’s a new friend I made this year:

I befriended other fellow bloggers this year!

16. This year I traveled to:

Istanbul! And maybe Dubai but I’m not sure if it was this year or the last.

17. Here’s one adventure I had this year:

All those ten days in Istanbul were one giant adventure.

18. This year I spent a lot of time here:

my bed. and school.

19. This year I broke out of my comfort zone by:

Trying new things that I was terrified of before.

20. A hobby I loved spending time on this year was:

Reading. (And napping but that probably isn’t a hobby)

21. This year I practiced self-care by:

  • meditating
  • working out
  • investing in my skin
  • hydrating
  • trying to de-stress but failing miserably
  • tried to prioritize sleep/naps

22. My biggest time waster this year was:

Movies and TV series.

23. What I am most grateful for this year is:

having my family and closest friends always around, and having their love and support.

24. Here are three words that would sum up this year:

stressful, adventurous, joy-filled

25. How have I developed or changed as a person?

I’ve learned that life is too short to hate things or to hide inside my comfort zone, so I’ve tried new things that I normally wouldn’t have done before. I believe I’m also a little less mean than I was before.

26. What have I done differently this year? What new people have I met or new experiences have I had?

I’ve stopped holding grudges. I’ve practiced self-care and reflection as much as possible. I’ve changed my perspective on certain things and I’ve tried not to judge people. Met quite a few lovely people, both inside and outside the blogosphere, and have had so many new experiences from visiting new places to working with different bloggers – and companies. (well, almost)

27. How much fun have I had this year? Was I fulfilled?

I’ve had loads and loaaaaads of fun this year, it’s been so amazing. Definitely fulfilled.

28. Who has helped me, been influential or impacted my life this year?

There are so many people, but mainly I would say my mother, my family, and my closest friends.

29. What am I really proud of?

Being prepared for the next year (blogging wise), learning how important self-care is, and not giving up.

30. Is everything I have done this year in alignment with my big dream or goal?

I can’t say yes to everything, but mostly yeah. There are definitely some things I wish I had done differently, but what’s done is done.

I hope you guys enjoyed reading through that, and I still strongly suggest that you go ahead and reflect on your year as well. It makes a big difference in how your new year will start, even though you might not realize or notice it. Thank you for sticking until the end. Don’t forget to follow my blog and subscribe via email! New posts soon x

 

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Where I’ve Been | Back on the Blogging Train

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Hey you guys. How has everyone been? Yes, I’ve been very MIA for last three and a half months I believe, and I apologize for that. I’ve been so busy with school and everything else that there has been absolutely no time for my blog. School has stressed me out to the max. But since winter break has just begun, I thought what better time to hop back onto the blogging train than now? Oh, how I’ve missed writing. I’ve missed my blog. Whenever I’m not blogging, it feels like I’m neglecting a child. Weird, but that’s how it is.

So what’s new outside the blogosphere?

Over these past three and half-ish months, I’ve completed 3 sets of academic exams, joined my school’s media team, gotten back on track with my training, and gone self-hosted!! That’s right you guys, I finally did it. I made the big move. This is a really big step in my blogging journey, and it makes me so happy. I will talk in detail about going self-hosted in another blog post. Also, I finally got my nose pierced (mentally squealing oMG)! I’ve wanted to get it done for over a year, and honestly, it was waaaaay less painful than I had anticipated.

In other news, I had been nominated for 3 (or 4?) award tags back in August/September, and one of them not just once but thrice! I have yet to complete these tags, I’ll pop the links to them somewhere in this post once they’re up. I’m so honored to be given recognition by other bloggers, our blogging community is so wonderful and I love being a part of it.

Also, guess who’s traveling agaiiin? Yup, this girl is going on another adventure, which means more blog posts and more photographs! I feel like everything from now on is going to be one giant adventure, and even though I’m obviously excited, I’m also a little overwhelmed. Especially with academics at the back of my mind.

Anyways, I’ll catch y’all later, hopefully soon. Follow me on my social media (handles linked below) to stay updated and for the behind-the-scenes part of my life.

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A Quick Update

Hello again.

So since I’ve been away for quite a while, I thought it would be nice of me to give you guys a little update on things. Firstly, Eid Mubarak to those of you celebrating! Secondly, if you follow me on social media, I had mentioned that I wouldn’t be posting very often for at least a month or so due to upcoming exams. These exams are honestly super important and so I need to put more time aside for studying. Once that’s over and done with, I’ll put more time into blogging and I will be posting more consistently. Now, because I’m going to be busy for a while, I’ve already written a couple of posts that just need to be scheduled, so you guys will still be getting content at least once or twice a week. How does that sound? If I do have any extra time on my hands, I will 100% be writing more posts to add to the growing list. 

In other news, I’m really hating the heat; wishing winter would come sooner. Speaking of winter, I have a few autumnal/wintery blog posts coming too, so keep an eye out. I suddenly have this huge burst of inspiration for posts out of nowhere and it sucks because I’ve hardly had any time to write lately. The one time I don’t have writer’s block just has to be when I’m super busy, how convenient. It’s currently 1:10 am and it’s only around now that I find time for writing. This will be a scheduled post for tomorrow though since it’s obviously quite late to publish it right now. I have plans for this blog you guys, just wait and see. I hope y’all truly like my content when it comes. I personally think it’s going to be amazing. Or at least I’m hoping. Also, I’ll be changing up the theme a little whenever I get the time – not really feeling this current one at all. Anyways, I guess that’s all I have to say for now.

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Different.

Writing for a purpose can sometimes be the hardest thing; if I’m forced to write, the result would be a fully blank sheet of paper. But if I write just for the sake of holding a pen, I could get like ten billion words out. Is it just me or do other people feel that way?

Also, I feel like my previous blog posts have been the most random things ever and they’re mostly about writing, but eh. That’s what my blog is about after all – it’s what I think and how I feel. It’s a part of me. It even says right there on the top that this blog is a teeny tiny glance into my mind. A mind that never stops learning and exploring, a very very curious mind at that.

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Just paper?

Reading is the best thing ever. Well, one of the best things at least. Once you pick up a book and start reading, you enter this whole new realm; you forget where you are or who you’re with, and all you can focus on are the words on the pages in front of you.

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Summer ’17 Reading List


If you like reading, then good for you. If you don’t, well then I don’t like you good for you too. If you guys didn’t already know, I’m in love with books. Books never fail to make me feel better or to satisfy my need for exploration and adventure. I’ve been reading since a little before I turned 4; I read books that were way more advanced for my age. I was always the kid that had her nose stuck in a book (and I believe I still am that person). As a kid in elementary school, I would spend every free moment in the library. And bear in mind, our school library was huge. Or at least to 8 year old me it was. Sometimes I’d read the same books all over, yet each time felt like a completely different journey. I love reading so much, but lately, I haven’t read as much as I used to. So to make up for all those missed hours, I’m going to read all summer long. How amazing does that sound? Here’s my reading list for this summer.

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